Friday, October 31, 2014

Happy Halloween!

When witches go riding and black cats are seen, the moon laughs and whispers, "tis near Halloween!"







Thursday, October 30, 2014

Finding A Family...

There is a boy in China who is ten years old. Jackson is precious, and smart, he can read and write, he enjoys working on computers, and he doesn't let his delays or cerebral palsy slow him down. He walks, can communicate, and can dress and take care of himself. He has a very sweet smile, and most of all... he needs a family.

His file was completed when he was six years old, and he is ten now. He told us he wanted a mom and a dad, and he said he would be a good boy... oh, my heart.

We met Jackson last month when we were picking up tiny P, and he broke my heart.  The orphanage director said he didn't understand why no one had come for Jackson, because he is a wonderful boy, and would make a fine son. He just could not fathom why this boy would be waiting for four years... FOUR YEARS! That is way too long to wait for a family!


Do you know someone looking for a son? Do you have room in your heart for a precious ten year old boy?

November is adoption awareness month, and this Sunday is orphan Sunday... I would love for this to be Jackson's last November as an orphan. I would love for him to know the love of a family, to have a mom and dad, and to be an orphan no more.



At the top left of my blog is an email button. Please don't hesitate to contact me with questions about Jackson...
But most especially, will you pray for him? Pray for him, and other kids like him, who have been waiting for years to become part of a family. Pray that his mom and dad will find him very soon! 

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

We Were Looking...

Six months ago we were wondering who our third child would be...wondering how old they were, and where they were, and what they would look like.

Six months ago we saw tiny P's face for the first time. When I opened up my email that afternoon, this face was looking back at me.



We fell in love with her chubby cheeks, and her somber little face.


Now, six months later, tiny P has been with us for over a month.

She is toddling around our house, and trying to keep up with her siblings. She has a family, and we fall even more in love with those cheeks every day.



Six months ago, we were looking for this girl... and we are so happy she is ours!



Wordless Wednesday... Little Heroes














Monday, October 27, 2014

One...

Only one month ago we got off a plane with this little girl...


She was serious, and miserable, and grief stricken. She struggled through each day in a sad stupor, and we were worried. She had been through a trauma that I can't even fathom, given to complete strangers by the people she trusted and loved...



She has every reason never to trust an adult again, and to grieve her losses for years to come.

But somehow, there is an inner strength that has allowed her to open up, to smile again, to let herself be happy, to begin to like us, and to laugh.

This is the part of adoption that I love the very most. To watch a little person open up, to blossom, and to begin to find their place in their new family. I love that I get to see her begin to feel more secure with us, and to learn to love the people who love her so dearly. I love that we get to see her find her joy, and learn to laugh again.



And she does laugh. Not a lot, but when she does, it is the cutest. And she smiles. A lot. And she plays, and she is beginning to learn that we are her people.

Is she attached? Does she trust us? Of course not, but we trust that she will. She is opening up...


And we get to watch it happen. How blessed are we?

Happy one month, tiny P.





Sunday, October 26, 2014

Sunday...

Sometimes I look at my own kids and with dread I think to myself, “you have no idea what this world will do to you.” But then I realize that I should be looking at the world and with joy saying to it, “you have no idea what my children will do for you." ~ Matt Walsh



Saturday, October 25, 2014

Sensory And Beyond...

Our boy... baby J has some sensory processing needs that we have been working at helping him with for some time. I have written about some of the therapy he received, and the tools we use with him, like skin brushing, a weighted vest, massage, and time spent jumping on a trampoline or running...


For a while, we saw such great improvement that we were able to start cutting back on some things, but with all the changes in baby J's life, it seemed that he was regressing, and needed help again.

While his sensory needs have greatly improved, we have noticed some other behaviors with our boy that have us concerned...


So much has changed for baby J in the past few months... with starting preschool, and then adding a younger sibling who is in to EVERYTHING, and wants to be in all of baby J's toys, and needs his mommy's attention, he is a bit overwhelmed.

He is not just overwhelmed, he is stressed out...


He has developed a whole new set of behaviors that, on the surface, look like more sensory stemmed behaviors. But he is nervous...
He has some nervous ticks, like rapid blinking, sucking on his lips, pinching his skin, and kicking himself over and over. He wrings his little hands, and picks and pinches at anything close to his hands. He has some behavior issues that leave us all feeling frustrated, and make us wonder what is going on inside that cute little head. We are tired of feeling like we are constantly discipling him.
Poor little guy is losing it...


And we want so badly to make everything ok for him, but we are feeling unsure of what we need to do, or what he needs, and we are struggling with how to help our baby J...

We need help. So this week we will be talking to some therapists, and looking for some ideas of things we can do to help our boy. And we will be coming up with some plans and strategies for baby J.


We want our boy to be successful, and happy, and healthy. We want him to thrive and do well at school and family life...
And we need help! What do you do for your little ones who are stressed and have bigger feelings than they know what to do with, or who are just difficult? What works for your family?