Ever since we first got little M, even in China, she has been a collector. A little trinket, maybe a rock, a stick…maybe a small toy…the other day it was a small piece of dry pasta. She will carry a little flower around balled up in her fist, until it wilts and discolors, and even then she proclaims it beautiful.
She will carry these little things around in her balled up little fist like a tiny security blanket.
She will name them, worry about them, and be very happy with them.
Also, she will be devastated if something happens to her treasure.
I have never taken these away, and I have always tried to be sensitive to the fact that these seem to bring her some sort of comfort. But truly, I don’t get it, and I worry about her attachment to these things getting in the way of life. So far, it’s fine, but holding on to these things does impede her ability to hold onto other things…like a swing at the park.
These treasures will last an entire day, but the next day she doesn’t go back to these things. She moves on to her next treasure, and doesn’t seem to miss the precious item from the previous day.
Is this a normal four year old thing? Do all kids do this?