To answer all those questions…
Yes, little M is going with us! We are excited to travel as a family of three and come home as a family of four, and we want little M to be a part of bringing her brother home!
She is definitely excited, and she also is nervous with all the packing and changing going on…add the fact that she is on Spring break this week to all of the travel craziness, and our girl is feeling a little out of control without her regular routine.
Our girl definitely understands what is going on. She has a lot of memories from China, and knows her adoption story well. She asks about her brother every day, all day. She wonders who is holding him when he is sad, and who is feeding him. She wonders if he has enough to eat, and if he has a nanny. She asks if he is in an orphanage, if he has friends, and says she wishes he could be home now. She talks about what she is going to teach him, and how he will be happier in a family.
She understands… we are still expecting jealousy on her part, some regression, and plenty of sibling rivalry, and would love any ideas on how to handle that.
But for now, our girl is counting down the days until she goes to China to get her brother!