In trying to gauge where baby J is in his adjustment with us, it is nice to be able to look back at the blog, and see where little M was when she had been home the same amount of time. It makes me glad I have kept this little bloggy journal of our family’s happenings…
When little M had been home for ten months I wrote This post about how she never did anything…nothing at all, without asking first. She would ask to play with her toys, she would ask to look at a book, she would ask to take a drink of water even when she was holding the cup of water in her hands!
I am glad that she is now able to just do the things she knows she is allowed to do, but when I was looking back at this time, it reminded me of someone.
Baby J’s therapists have been pointing out lately that it is not normal for a child to ask for EVERYTHING the way he does. I remember going through this with little M, so I hadn’t thought about how others may view this, but it’s true. After being home for seven months, baby J is following in his sister’s footsteps. He is certainly not as extreme as little M was, but he does ask before he does nearly everything.
I have no idea what causes this, or if it is the norm with adopted kiddos. It definitely seems to be a trend with our little ones, though. Maybe it’s just the anxiety of being a little unsure of what to do next. Maybe they really think they do need to ask permission before taking a drink of water?
At least now I know it won’t last forever!