Different…

Boys are so different…they’re a little bit weird. I grew up with two brothers, but I never knew how weird boys were until now, parenting one of my own.

My girl loves her some cars, legos, Star Wars, and Spiderman and Batman.  She is wearing Spiderman underwear to school this morning, in fact.

But I never realized the huge difference between how girls and boys play.
Little M is dainty, not as dainty as some girls, but compared to baby J she is a dainty little thing. Little M takes great joy in building something with her legos, and enjoys and plays with her creation for hours.
Baby J only builds so that he has something to destroy.

Little M has a very healthy respect for personal safety.
I am concerned that baby J may have something of a death wish…he seems to be missing the gene for feeling pain. For instance, when little M goes down a slide, she chooses the smallest slide, and goes down as slowly as possible, so as not to terrify herself or get hurt. Baby J is happy to hurl himself down the slide face first. He may give me an early heart attack.

Little M is always talking or singing. She has quite a musical repertoire, and is always singing or talking to anyone (or anything) that will listen.
Baby J is different. He just makes noise. Boyish noise.

Little M loves to craft and create things. She loves to make things pretty. So far, baby J only seems to want to take things apart, and see how they work. He has no time for coloring…or sitting still.

When little M gets excited, she squeals with delight, gives you a hug, and often does a happy dance.
When baby J gets excited, he laughs and punches you. Awesome. We clearly have to work on some things. Ha.

9 Comments

  1. Musings from Kim K. on April 23, 2013 at 12:04 pm

    What a super sweet post to start my morning.

  2. Jlstrange on April 23, 2013 at 1:08 pm

    Your post this morning made me laugh, especially your last sentence. Boys are definitely different and fun and can be oh so sweet too, they are kind of like onions and have lots of layers. Have fun with your sweet precious boy and girl. They are super cute and oh so blessed.

  3. J Willis on April 23, 2013 at 1:20 pm

    Yup, as a mama of two boys – that's a boy!!! I can't tell you the number of times I've thought \”they will give me a heart attack\” climbing high, jumping off everything, pulling their scooters up the slide etc – just hang on mama!!!(Its a fun adventure though)Blessings;)

  4. Bev on April 23, 2013 at 2:07 pm

    I just can't believe how quickly baby J has changed. To look back at the photos of him from China and the ones you posted from your first few days together and then compare those to the more recent ones… his whole face glows with joy and it is so wonderful. Those dimples and the sparkle in his eyes just melt my heart and seeing little M hugging her baby brother is priceless. So happy for your little family.

  5. michelle on April 23, 2013 at 4:48 pm

    HeeHeeHaHa, TaHeeHa, soooo funny! Yes! We had two boys, then came along a little girl who is oh such a girly, girl although with two older brothers she so managed to fall in love with every worm in our yard, but she named them and held them tenderly, LOL. Then we adopted our two siblings, older (girl) younger (boy). Girl sounds so like your little M. Then boy sounds so like baby J that all I could do is laugh. After six months home, however, we have made some miniature changes in little boy, he loves to color (as long as it is something like a truck), he builds with Lincoln Logs w/o breaking them down (b/c he wants it to be as tall as him and says that this makes HIM strong), he learned the word beautiful which is, however, accompanied with the words (beautiful tow-truck, beautiful moter-bike, beautiful police-car). But in the next instant I can jump a mile while driving for at the very top of his lungs he is imitating some sound from out the window, nothing is quiet about this boy. But as someone before me said, I know from our older boys, they are like onions, they can be soo very dear and sweet and loving too. Enjoy….your boy. Michelle

  6. dawn on April 23, 2013 at 5:19 pm

    OMGoodness this post is too funny…but maybe not so much for you. Can't help I have 2 girls and I think they are rough but maybe not so much now. Good luck.

  7. Tanya on April 23, 2013 at 5:52 pm

    Oh, yes! I had to laugh–my little Bean is only 18 months, but I totally know what you mean! The random shrieks, incredible destructive energy, and lack of fear keep me on my toes every day! I have to say, though, he is the light of my life…even when I would give anything for him to just slow down.

  8. Debbie Sauer on April 24, 2013 at 12:34 am

    Yep, just saying the same thing about the grandkids today! Blessings

  9. R on April 24, 2013 at 6:13 pm

    Very true! I only have boys but can see the differences between them and their female friends and cousins. I actually think I remember reading something in the book, Bringing up Boys, about that whole no fear of pain thing boys have going on…their brains are truly wired differently!

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